“Sadness”: Is it what you consider it to be?
Yesterday, my friend and I had a discussion on spirituality and how one can be in peace with himself. During that conversation, my friend pointed out to me that I am a sad person in general. I was called out for not enjoying life as it is, worrying a lot and missing out on a lot of things, and maybe that’s why I’m not at peace with myself.
Now with a revelation like that, it was hard for me to sleep that night. I started to question myself, “Am I really a sad person?” and “Am I really not at peace?”. I went over various scenarios about how my life could have been different, how I could change this thing around, how I could be at peace.
Even after much deliberation, the only conclusion I could draw was that no matter what I do I would still end up at the same place where I am because that is who I am. Every situation, every experience that I have been through has made me the person I am today. There is absolutely nothing in the past I would like to change. As long as I am concerned, my actions are not doing any damage or hurting anybody! Why should I possess the guilt of being wrong?
The question and the answer
The next immediate question that pops into my mind is, “What do I do about my sadness?” “Is it really necessary to do something about it?” And the only viable answer to that was a simple “NO”.
We are living in a world where everyone is being consumed by their own needs and people often forget that they have to uplift others. This, in turn, leads to violence, betrayal, and eventually, people disconnect from each other and destroy themselves. This thought makes me sad and I am sure it breaks other’s hearts too.
We live in an environment where there is a surge in all these negative feelings towards each other. While some people can overlook and become blind to these facts, I tend to be more observant. I tend to see and feel this negative energy even when I’m casually walking down the road. At the back of my head, I am always thinking about how a change can be brought upon. It is during these times that people usually see me and judge that I’m a sad person.
I do not blame them, after all, the human brain is wired that way. I personally feel that being a naturally sad person opens your eyes to various opportunities, ideas, and innovations that wouldn’t have presented itself otherwise.
From times immemorial, the early man did not invent the wheel because he was content with what he had. He did so because he was sad that he couldn’t do things faster, he couldn’t go to places faster. Thomas Alva Edison did not invent the light bulb because he was content living in the dark. He did so because he was sad that he and his people had to live in the dark. And it is out of this so-called sadness, born is the desire to change your circumstances. This simple undervalued emotion resulted in some of the greatest inventions in the history of mankind.
Circling back to where we started, sadness and not being at peace with oneself has no relation whatsoever. One can be sad and also be at peace simultaneously. Being at peace means accepting yourself as a whole with all your qualities, whether good or bad. It is important to understand that we are the result of the situations we are put in, the people we are surrounded by and most importantly, who we choose to be. As long we don’t do any damage or hurt anybody around us, fostering any emotion is justified. And accepting those emotions and what they represent is what being at peace means.